“In the context of a materialist feminist discourse, we know bodies matter. But we also know that our bodies are not our destiny. We are more than our bodies. It’s this very spiritual concept that got my slave ancestors through the horrors of that experience, knowing that we are more than our bodies, finding a space to transcend this material we’re living in. But as a liberatory stance it’s important for black people to reclaim our bodies, historically sold raped, lynched, generally devalued as not beautiful and savage even. But as we reclaim our bodies it’s important not to buy into the racialized mythology about them. My transsexual body often sought only as a site of sexual conquest and objectification is an interesting potential site for the subversion of that racist history. So many of the issues that plague African American culture today are rooted in my assessment in an uncritical relationship by both many black men and women to Patriachy or institutionalized sexism. This system is inherently heterosexist, homophobic and, of course, transphobic.”—
I can’t stress enough how important it is that you surround yourself with supportive people who make you feel important and special, and who enhance your life with their presence. If their presence is making you feel worse instead of better, re-evaluate why you’re letting them stay.